The words we speak are very important because they manifest what is in our heart. I hope to show in this study how paying close attention to the words we speak will help us see the wickedness of our heart, repent, and be healed.
Once this healing takes place, we will be able to speak good words that edify and comfort others. There is no escaping this process, we must first speak evil words from a wicked heart, before we can speak good words from a new heart.
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Let’s look at some more examples:
In John 16, Jesus recognized that the disciples could not bear what he had to tell them, so he refrained. This is like feeding a child, when they are busy chewing what you have already given them, don’t try to stuff more into their mouth.
John 16:12 I have yet many things to say unto you, but ye cannot bear them now.
John 16:13 Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come.
This is one of my favorite examples:
Proverbs 26:4 Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest thou also be like unto him Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own conceit.
Proverbs 26:5 There is a time to not respond to a foolish and unlearned comments.
2Ti 2:23 But foolish and unlearned questions avoid, knowing that they do gender strifes.
Matthew 7:6 Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.
There is also a time to rebuke a fool. Sometimes in needs to a sharp rebuke, and other times gentle.
This is the Greek word translated as “rebuke”.
Of uncertain affinity; to confute, admonish: – convict, convince, tell a fault, rebuke, reprove.
Tit 1:10 For there are many unruly and vain talkers and deceivers, specially they of the circumcision:
Tit 1:11 Whose mouths must be stopped, who subvert whole houses, teaching things which they ought not, for filthy lucre’s sake.
Tit 1:12 One of themselves, even a prophet of their own, said, The Cretians are alway liars, evil beasts, slow bellies.
Tit 1:13 This witness is true. Wherefore rebuke (G1651) them sharply, that they may be sound in the faith;
Tit 1:14 Not giving heed to Jewish fables, and commandments of men, that turn from the truth.
Tit 2:15 These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke (G1651) with all authority. Let no man despise thee.
Rev 3:19 As many as I love, I rebuke (G1651) and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.
Joh 16:8 And when he is come, he will reprove (G1651) the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgment:
Eph 5:11 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove (G1651) them.
2Ti 4:2 Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove (G1651), rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine.
Tit 1:9 Holding fast the faithful word as he hath been taught, that he may be able by sound doctrine both to exhort and to convince (G1651) the gainsayers.
Here Paul calls the Corinthians carnal babies in Christ… that is pretty harsh.
1 Corinthians 3:1 And I, brethren, could not speak unto you as unto spiritual, but as unto carnal, even as unto babes in Christ.
1 Corinthians 3:2 I have fed you with milk, and not with meat: for hitherto ye were not able to bear it, neither yet now are ye able.
1 Corinthians 3:3 For ye are yet carnal: for whereas there is among you envying, and strife, and divisions, are ye not carnal, and walk as men?
1 Corinthians 3:4 For while one saith, I am of Paul; and another, I am of Apollos; are ye not carnal?
Jesus spoke sharply himself at time.
Mat 23:33 NKJV Serpents, brood of vipers! How can you escape the condemnation of hell?
Mat 17:14 And when they had come to the multitude, a man came to Him, kneeling down to Him and saying,
Mat 17:15 “Lord, have mercy on my son, for he is an epileptic and suffers severely; for he often falls into the fire and often into the water.
Mat 17:16 So I brought him to Your disciples, but they could not cure him.”
Mat 17:17 Then Jesus answered and said, “O faithless and perverse generation, how long shall I be with you? How long shall I bear with you? Bring him here to Me.”
There are other scriptures about teaching with meekness and gentleness.
Gal 6:1 NKJV Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted.
2Ti 2:24 NKJV And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient,
2Ti 2:25 in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth,
Rom 2:4 Or do you despise the riches of His goodness, forbearance, and longsuffering, not knowing that the goodness of God leads you to repentance?
Isa 40:1 NKJV “Comfort, yes, comfort My people!” Says your God.
Isa 40:2 “Speak comfort to Jerusalem, and cry out to her, That her warfare is ended, That her iniquity is pardoned; For she has received from the LORD’s hand Double for all her sins.”
Eph 4:32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
We will be able to offer comfort to others when we are comforted of God ourselves. We can only give to others what we have received.
2Co 1:3 NKJV Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort,
2Co 1:4 who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.
2Co 1:5 For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also abounds through Christ.
2Co 1:6 Now if we are afflicted, it is for your consolation and salvation, which is effective for enduring the same sufferings which we also suffer. Or if we are comforted, it is for your consolation and salvation.
2Co 1:7 And our hope for you is steadfast, because we know that as you are partakers of the sufferings, so also you will partake of the consolation.
2Co 7:4 NKJV Great is my boldness of speech toward you, great is my boasting on your behalf. I am filled with comfort. I am exceedingly joyful in all our tribulation.
2Co 7:5 For indeed, when we came to Macedonia, our bodies had no rest, but we were troubled on every side. Outside were conflicts, inside were fears.
2Co 7:6 Nevertheless God, who comforts the downcast, comforted us by the coming of Titus,
2Co 7:7 and not only by his coming, but also by the consolation with which he was comforted in you, when he told us of your earnest desire, your mourning, your zeal for me, so that I rejoiced even more.
Colossians 4:8 Whom I have sent unto you for the same purpose, that he might know your estate, and comfort your hearts;
Colossians 4:9 With Onesimus, a faithful and beloved brother, who is one of you. They shall make known unto you all things which are done here.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do.
1 Thessalonians 5:12 And we beseech you, brethren, to know them which labour among you, and are over you in the Lord, and admonish you; 13 And to esteem them very highly in love for their work’s sake. And be at peace among yourselves.
1 Thessalonians 5:14 Now we exhort you, brethren, warn them that are unruly, comfort the feebleminded, support the weak, be patient toward all men.
1 Thessalonians 5:15 See that none render evil for evil unto any man; but ever follow that which is good, both among yourselves, and to all men.
1 Thessalonians 4:15 For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive and remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep.
1 Thessalonians 4:16 For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first:
1 Thessalonians 4:17 Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord. 18 Wherefore comfort one another with these words.
Here in 2 Corinthians, Paul is telling the Corinthians to receive back the fornicator that that He told them to put out in 1 Cor 5.
2 Corinthians 2:5 But if any have caused grief, he hath not grieved me, but in part: that I may not overcharge you all.
2 Corinthians 2:6 Sufficient to such a man is this punishment, which was inflicted of many.
2 Corinthians 2:7 So that contrariwise ye ought rather to forgive him, and comfort him, lest perhaps such a one should be swallowed up with overmuch sorrow.
2 Corinthians 2:8 Wherefore I beseech you that ye would confirm your love toward him.
2 Corinthians 2:9 For to this end also did I write, that I might know the proof of you, whether ye be obedient in all things.
2 Corinthians 2:10 To whom ye forgive any thing, I forgive also: for if I forgave any thing, to whom I forgave it, for your sakes forgave I it in the person of Christ;
2 Corinthians 2:11 Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices.
Let’s conclude with this passage in James 3.
Jas 3:2 NKJV For we all stumble in many things. If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle the whole body.
Jas 3:3 Indeed, we put bits in horses’ mouths that they may obey us, and we turn their whole body.
Jas 3:4 Look also at ships: although they are so large and are driven by fierce winds, they are turned by a very small rudder wherever the pilot desires.
Jas 3:5 Even so the tongue is a little member and boasts great things. See how great a forest a little fire kindles!
Jas 3:6 And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell.
Jas 3:7 For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and creature of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by mankind.
Jas 3:8 But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.
Jas 3:9 With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God.
Jas 3:10 Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so.
Jas 3:11 Does a spring send forth fresh water and bitter from the same opening?
Jas 3:12 Can a fig tree, my brethren, bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Thus no spring yields both salt water and fresh.
Let’s all ask the Lord to give us control over our tongue and the wisdom to know what to say at the right time.
Jas 1:5 NKJV If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.